“There were a few ‘affiliations’ I severed in 2018. It was hurtful and disappointing, but necessary … however, that was prep for those I refuse to carry over into 2019… Stop holding on to people that have constantly proved that they are not worth the effort and don’t or no longer add value to your success, peace of mind and joy… ” #letthemgo
Though an “end of the year” quick post on social media from 2018, let me give you some context. I believe and it’s applicable and I am getting better at it.
As simple as it seems, it’s not that easy, in my humble opinion, especially when it comes to “blood”, long friendships, and relationships. Read and apply as needed.
I’m a nurturer. Nurturers are very quick to help others but often deny or delay their own care. This has been confirmed in the #javaCafe by a majority of the experts. So, I realize it’s a character trait of folks like me. Hi Nurturers, my name is Jimmy! LOL
Delaying, and at worse, denying our own care is unhealthy. Whether it’s our routine and preventative healthcare, or our #mentalhealth (we should start staying “health” and it be all-inclusive, but that’s another post), not taking care of ourselves actually impacts our ability to nurture freely. Let’s keep it all the way 100!
Can I say that part of our self-care is protecting our space? We have to be very careful of what/how we consume their issues, and how we sustain ourselves while still helping them.
If you find that there are those that constantly cause you to:
- Feel Stressed
- Disrupte Your Sleep
- Impacts Your Eating Patterns
- Causes Issues with Weight Gain/Loss
- Headaches
If they cause you to deal with one, but especially with two or more of any combination of these yeah, it’s time to #letthemgo.
As I started out by saying, it’s not easy, but it’s essential.
Have you ever needed to let someone go? How did you do it? How did it work out?